Survival of Trauma is not a coincidence
I think that when you talk with people or families who have had a loved one to survive such a trauma that there is a feeling of relief. Likewise, there also can be a tremendous feeling of guilt. There is always a feeling of wow why did I survive instead of that person? Why does one person live or certain people live and not others?
survivor guilt definitionA deep sense of guilt, combined often with feelings of numbness and loss of interest in life, felt by those who have survived some catastrophe. It was first noticed among survivors of the Holocaust. Survivors often feel that they did not do enough to save those who died or that they are unworthy relative to the perished.
This is apparent in mass disasters or major events of death. Plane crashes etc. Most often you hear it termed as Survivors Guilt. If allowed to manifest it can even turn into Survivor's Syndrome.